Shelby Devlin, Coaching — Counselor in San Francisco, CA

Shelby is an amazing coach! I love how she incorporates fun and safety in her work.

Shelby Devlin’s Ravishment workshop helped my partner and me to understand our desires and communicate them clearly and confidently. If you want to know how to excite someone safely, consensually and with a little delicious risk, this is the class! Shelby gives a roadmap for understanding power dynamics that you can use again and again, whether you love to ravish or be ravished. She’s an expert with decades of experience, even though she looks young -- and, yes, she's that hot in person too. She excels at communicating sex and intimacy topics to anyone: doms, subs, switches, newbs and old pros. She speaks everyone’s language and even testifies in court to juries and judges as an expert witness on BDSM. If you’re curious about intimacy, D/s, or taking your connection deeper, book Shelby now before she gets too famous and we can only catch her on TV. (Check out Virgin Island Season 2 airing in 2026 to see her coaching in action.) Highly recommend!

Walking away from “Ravishment” in complete acceptance of myself. Shelby is a gift to the BDSM world, she offerings experiential practices in real time and celebrates all parts of self.

Shelby is the queen of coaching and teaching BDSM. I took a three day workshop from Shelby. It was one of the highest quality workshops I've ever attended. Shelby delivered the rich curriculum with professionalism, precision, warmth and sexiness. I highly recommend working with Shelby in any capacity. Her knowledge around kink, BDSM and relationships in this dynamic is pure gold. She celebrates our deepest and darkest desires without shame, while coaching people how to get those desires met in a healthy, harm free way. If you're looking to expand your own sexual menu or wanting to know how to coach others to branch out and explore their core desires, Shelby is the one.

I just had the opportunity to attend a 3 day long workshop with Shelby to train coaches in how to cover BDSM with clients. Whether you are brand new to the kink world or have previous experience, Shelby has a wealth of knowledge to share. She made the weekend fly by with her humor, power to wrangle a group and thoughtful planning of curriculum. I’ve already reached out to her for one-on-one sessions to continue my learning and development, as she is truly a Mistress of her craft.

I attended a 3-day intensive workshop on BDSM under Shelby's guidance and was staggered by her level of expertise, care, genuiness, clarity, laser focus and, of course, sexiness! I walked in knowing nearly nothing about the topic and even had some doubts I would find anything there for me and left completely convinced that there is a whole world of healing and pleasure for me there and with skills and knowledge I can bring to my clients. Oh, and did I mention it is fun and SEXY as all hell...? I'd literally recommend Shelby and this training to anyone, including any number of (insert: friends, family, lovers, great aunts...you name it).

Shelby is an incredible BDSM coach and kink educator. I attended a weekend 3-day workshop she taught. I can’t believe how much ground she covered in 3 days, and yet it never felt too rushed or overwhelming. There were people at all levels attending the workshop, but everyone felt safe and supported, and walked out with new and amazing insights on their own kinky selves, as well as how to teach BDSM to their clients. Whether you’re a newbie exploring BDSM for the first time, or an experienced kinkster looking to level up your game, Shelby will help you, and she will make it fun. I can’t recommend her highly enough.

I cannot speak more highly of Shelby. Despite never having done anything like this (and feeling more than a bit nervous to engage), I can say that Shelby made me feel at ease without compromising results. Shelby is professional, patient, and matches the “theory” with actual hands on practice that truly makes the session invaluable for those looking to level up their sex/ intimacy skills. Thank you Shelby!

Shelby is incredible, and I couldn't think more highly of her and the work she does. I recently had a 2-day intensive with her during one of her visits to NYC. She's a great teacher, is extremely supportive and non-judgmental, and offers great wisdom and judgment. She's comfortable working with talk, touch, and nonverbal communication, and is fun, lively, and great to be around. Shelby has my highest recommendation for anyone looking for support in better understanding and accepting the range and depth of their sexuality, and better communicating their needs, desires and fantasies to their partner.

Shelby is absolutely incredible, and we feel lucky we found her! My partner and I went to Shelby to learn more about increasing intimacy and connection that will last. We had no idea what to expect going into our first session and were nervous about what it would be like. I am SO glad we overcame our nerves and scheduled a session, because Shelby has had such a positive impact on our relationship and each of us individually. She brings immense knowledge and value to each session, so we have continued to meet with her far longer than we initially expected! She put us at ease immediately, and is incredibly skilled, thoughtful, and observant. Working with Shelby, we have seen our romantic connection, communication, and chemistry blossom even further. Plus, we just had so much fun in every single session. If you are considering sex and intimacy coaching, but are on the fence, all I can say is GO SEE SHELBY! You will not regret it.