Fiachra Figs O'Sullivan LMFT - Couples Therapy — Marriage or relationship counselor in City and County of San Francisco, CA

Figs has been a lifesaver. From the very first session, his kindness and genuine empathy created a space where we both felt heard, understood, and supported. He has an incredible ability to listen deeply while also offering thoughtful, practical guidance that actually helps you move forward. What stands out most is the balance he brings: he is warm and funny, yet also exceptionally sharp and professional in how he approaches complex dynamics. His insights are consistently thoughtful and grounded, and he has a way of helping you see things more clearly without ever making you feel judged. Marriage therapy can feel vulnerable, but with Figs ir feels constructive, safe, helpful and dare I say; enjoyable. We’ve made real progress because of his guidance, and I’m incredibly grateful for the role he has played in helping strengthen our relationship. I cannot recommend him highly enough. Anyone who has the opportunity to work with him is very fortunate.

Teale was incredibly helpful for our relationship as we transitioned into being parents. She does a really great job getting under the surface of issues and helping partners understand what might be going on for them. She's also wonderful for the "therapy averse" and helps guide sessions in a way many can't. We are so grateful and our relationship is better because of our work with her!

Figs is one of a kind. My wife and I started working with Figs for couples therapy and after our first session, it was apparent that Figs is different than most therapists. He has an uncanny ability to absorb what he hears, process it in real time, and then speak it back to you in a way that does two things -- 1) he makes you feel both completely heard and understood, which is incredible for someone who has only gotten a small glimpse into your relationship and dynamics, and 2) he quickly is able to verbalize the problematic personal + relationship systems you might have had a hunch were present but could not consciously articulate. I've loved working with Figs and highly recommend him to anyone looking to deepen their understanding of themselves and their relationship.

Figs does incredible work with couples in San Francisco and beyond! He really understands the hearts of people and how to help them hear each other. My husband and I use the tools we learned from him on a regular basis to get past whatever we think the conflict is about and heal the core wounds underneath.

Figs taught me so much about my relationship patterns and helped me to see my role in the conflicts I kept getting into with my partner. When I first started working with him, it was like a light going on in a dark attic - I suddenly understood so much about what was happening between my partner and me. Figs is very funny and very skilled. I highly recommend him to anyone who feels stuck in their relationship. Working with him was invaluable. If you are looking for marriage counseling in San Francisco, Figs and his amazing team is the way to go.

I threw a Hail Mary pass and searched “last resort couples counseling”. Enter Figs :-) Imagine standing on the edge of the Grand Canyon ready to jump, parachute or not. This is where we were at and within the first hour, everything felt profoundly different. His approach is unique and it takes time, but it is worth every minute! If you’re wanting to heal and move forward together, I can’t recommend Figs enough.

Figs is different. Having spend 8 years in therapy and 2 years in couples therapy, I can confidently say, Figs is different. What was therapy like before Figs? We saw a couple's therapist who gave us lots of "tools" which we always weaponized and fought harder knowing we were doing the "right" thing. We would have huge fights in the session as we tried to talk about the feelings. We left each session, thing we were more right and the other person was more wrong. What was therapy like with Figs? Within the first session, Figs made it clear that the other person WILL NOT change. (I ofcourse was baffled, because they are clearly the problem, I thought). It sounds insane but in just 1 month, I understood what he meant. We learned about how we hurt each other, how difficult it is to be a partner to me. Accepting and learning about the dynamic we had helped us change the dynamic. We fight about the same things, the fight is just a bit shorter, and a lot less painful. Who will benefit from Figs? I believe everyone but ESPECIALLY couples who are strong and intelligent. These traits can easily be weaponized to hurt each other and require a really really strong therapist to step in.

I am writing this review because Figs not only saved our marriage, but was also a huge influence in positive self growth for both myself and my husband, and I could not recommend him more highly. I recommend him to all of my friends who are seeking therapy, without hesitation. My husband and I have been married over 30 years, and the toll of parenting, dual careers, and life stresses led to a gradual downward spiral of disconnection that left our marriage, once we were empty nesters, in a very tenuous spot. We started working with Figs well over a year ago and right away both felt seen, heard and validated, which was wonderful. Having a male therapist was very helpful for my husband as he felt Figs understood his male point of view, which helped keep him coming back to therapy week after week despite facing hard issues. From my female perspective, Figs is so empathetic and intuitive that I too felt equally validated, which is saying a lot given I have trust issues with men. Figs has helped gently guide us to a deeper connection than we have ever had, and helped us feel safe in our relationship again to the point that now, with his help, we are both doing deep personal growth work. His focus on emotionally focused therapy has been instrumental in all of this, and I feel very strongly it is the best (and most proven!) approach to couples work, and recommend it highly. Figs instills both humor and compassion into our sessions, and has an amazing way about him that keeps us both looking forward to our weekly zoom meetings. I couldn’t recommend him more highly, both for couples and individual work. He is worth his weight in gold!

Figs is absolutely incredible. I credit him with saving our relationship. He doesn't focus on skills, but rather on repair. If you've tried everything, you love your partner but you're at the end of your rope, you need to see Figs! You will not regret it.

Figs is a super sharp and insightful therapist. He’s also deeply sensitive and empathetic. I know him as a colleague, having participated in workshops and professional development trainings with him. He is warm, tuned-in, and perceptive. I appreciate how he uses humor to make it easier to work with challenging emotions. He is easy to connect with, accepting and caring. I am always happy to have the chance to refer clients to him because I know they are in good hands. He does individual therapy and couples counseling / couples therapy in San Francisco and Marin.